How to Be a Good Listener in Online Meetings
As school and work meddle their way into our houses, living rooms, and personal computers, the irony derived from the excessive use of ways of connecting, along with the lack of effective communication related to today’s online meetings, is staggering. Although most of us will spend the majority of our days staring at a screen, most likely texting someone, scrolling through social media, or reading and writing emails, participating in meetings, classes, or any kind of virtual gathering at our computer, the quality of the messages collected by our brains at the end of the day is surprisingly low: we are simply scanning and discarding information, likely because we are handling everything and nothing at the same time, so our attention span simply cannot deal with it.

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With that in mind, in this article, we will try to shed some light on how to make the best of our online communications routine, and how to effectively communicate a listeners in online meetings.
Communicating effectively as a listener
This category is represented by the majority of us: as students, we must log in and listen to the professors trying to explain new topics through a screen. Usually, the classes will begin and finish without cameras or microphones, therefore there is not a lot of interaction. As listeners, it is our responsibility to make ourselves present, so for these examples, we are assuming that everyone is interested in learning and is not only attending the classes to get an attendance grade. Here are some tips to effectively communicate as a listener:
1. In the (online) classroom: Participate, lose the fear of the ridicule
We have all been there when the professor asks a question and then patiently waits while someone dares to answer. We do not answer because we assume that someone else will. The same idea is shared by everyone, therefore a good 15 to 30 seconds are gone in silence before something happens. It is a proverbial waste of time and energy to just sit there waiting, without learning either the subject or any soft skills. As students, we are there to learn, not to sit in front of a screen wishing for the minutes to go by faster. So, let’s dare to engage in the learning process. Asking questions is a great place to start.
Let’s be honest: usually, we do not ask because we are afraid of looking dumb. “It is probably a stupid question”, we tell ourselves. Well, what is the worst that can happen? Maybe someone will roll their eyes in their houses, in front of their computers, because they know the answer to our question. They can feel very proud of themselves, and that is it. Or even better: likely, someone else is also wondering about the same thing, so we will even be helping someone else clarify their doubts, which is among the coolest things we can do with our time on this planet.

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In the end, the teacher will give us the explanation we need, and everyone will finish the hour knowing a bit more about the world than before. Yes, it is scary, we will get anxious, our heart will race, our hands will shake, and so will our voice, but effective communication requires effort. We can just take a deep breath, open the mic, and start with “excuse me, I have a question”. The rest will come.
Extra tip
We do not need to wait to have a super complicated question before asking. Sometimes clarification, repeating a concept to make sure that we got it, or just engaging in a discussion can encourage us, the professor, and other students to make the learning process more effective.
2. In the (online) workplace: Engage in the challenges
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Many of the bad habits we have mastered as students (like the fear of speaking up, mentioned in the previous point) will be visible through our performance in the workplace. Often, we will be our worst critics and we will censor our ideas based on the perception of inadequacy or inexperience that we have about ourselves, particularly as young graduates during internships, or in entry-level positions. So we will listen to others speak up about the current project going on in the office, the new customers, or the new software, and just refuse to be bothersome by keeping quiet. We will nod and be easy-going and agreeable, even if we have no clue about how to tackle the challenges of the new project. “It will be ok after some time”, we tell ourselves, and then when time passes and our performance has not improved, we realise that perhaps not asking was a mistake, but now it is too late because everyone else is moving on to the next challenge, while we are still stuck in the basics of this one. How do we avoid this conundrum? Well, by effectively communicating: engaging, asking, and debating. We must remember that it is in the company’s higher interest that we have a clear idea of what the work is about and of how to deal with the current projects. If we see that perhaps there is an easier, better, faster way to deal with the challenges, which is what we are there for: even if our idea gets rejected, at least now we know why it would not work, and we will have a better understanding of how to utilise that resource or idea in the future. The worst enemy of effective communication is fear: we do not dare to speak up because we are afraid of being judged, ridiculed, laughed at, or ignored. Well, as far as we know, no one has died of that. No one has been fired for giving too many ideas or for engaging too much. If anything, it will show our interest and disposition towards the company’s projects. And that is definitely not a bad thing.
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